5 rules of dating after 40
5 rules of dating after 40 - Adult Chat Rooms
We're too tired to be sensual, sexy or fully engaged.Yes, romance is pretty far down the list of things we must tick off day to day.
I think treating the whole thing like a happy accident is probably advised. But, seriously, sex and relationships aren't that complicated, STDs aside.All of this is the reason men of a certain age don't really ask women out and have to be hogtied into a date or dinner, and why Nature has arranged for us to be most fertile in our 20s.If God waited until we were in our 40s, the world population would fall rapidly as too-busy adults attempted to co-ordinate romantic schedules.It's a sad truth that, once life and commitments intervene, we often lose our sense of playfulness, along with our libido.I am an editor with a broad range of interests including well-being, the environment, politics, lifestyle issues, social trends, sex and relationships and community. Over 40, however, a whole different set of rules come into play.
I am also a qualified counsellor and permaculturist, a dog lover and a yogi. There's ex-partners, children, work commitments, mortgages and this other thing called fear of commitment - derived from all of the previous unmentionables.
I have written two books, Sex, Optimism and Surviving the 21st Century (Harper Collins) and Slow Sydney (Affirm Press). That's when even something as simple as arranging a date assumes the proportion of climate change negotiations.
I love new ideas and people who think outside the box . WHEN you are in your 20s, "hooking up" as they call it, is easy. While once a man may have said, hey, let's have a drink, now he says: "What are you doing Friday week when my ex has the kids and I'm not working late? Should these negotiations be successfully completed, you then have to make it past the drink, where various parties will feel out each other's political leanings, views on prenuptial agreements, exact commitment to child rearing and current financial or employment status before anything can progress much further.
You just happen to run into him at the sports club, or the pub, where he's a bit more of a static target.
He never knows what's hit him and he certainly doesn't have time to consult his diary.
As for wooing the over-40s female, usefulness is the best attack. Do you like children or pets and are you prepared to mind them?