Christian teenage girls and dating
Christian teenage girls and dating - Online sex
You see, I didn't realize how common it was for parents to actually allow and even encourage pre-teens to go out on single dates without any supervision, or even be in the home alone with no chaperone.This astounded me—someone who often gets asked for advice on ways to help teens stay pure.
I'm not suggesting that you need to sit between your teen and his date at the movie theater, but there should never be a moment when they are alone without an adult in the house. It's far better to create an environment of power and self-control, where they have you to rely on, rather than to leave them to their own devices. As in many/most households, the subject of dating will come up at some point—hopefully later rather than sooner.Often parents lighten that control as teens get older, but the older they get, the more important is it to protect them from themselves. I'm not saying specifically that your teens are too weak to withstand pressure or temptation. Rather than setting a rule about an age requirement, you can take inventory on a regular basis to determine the readiness of your individual teens.Until you feel that these things are in place or achieved, I'd recommend holding off on allowing dating: Make sure your child exhibits some level of maturity; that they're able to resist temptation; that they can differentiate like, lust, and love; that they make wise selections, and that they know they are responsible for any consequences of their behavior.God wants the best for us in every area of our lives.This includes relationships with boyfriends or girlfriends.We should date for fun, friendship, personality, development, and selection of a mate, not to be popular or for security.
Don't allow peer pressure to force you into dating situations that are not appropriate.
Realize that over 50% of girls and over 40% of guys never date in high school. This principle is closely related to the first one and is just as important in friendships as in dating.
I recently overheard a twelve-year-old girl tell my daughter that she'd been out on a date with her boyfriend the night before.
I had to pry my jaw from the ground before I jumped into the conversation.
I wanted to confirm what I suspected—that it was a family outing and the boy was allowed to join them. She assured me that she and her also-twelve-year-old boyfriend were driven to the mall and dropped off, where they had dinner in the food court, wandered around for an hour, and then went to a movie. My intention has always been to do as my parents did and not let my kids date until they were sixteen—hoping they'd choose to wait even longer.
But I suddenly had to face the fact that I wasn't reading the situation clearly enough—I had blinders on.