Dating a gay police officer
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sans spouse so make sure you explain to the kids about Daddy's job so they understand. Trust me, that planned weekend sleep-in that you have had marked on the calendar for the past month will ALWAYS come after a 2 a.m.
He will get a call-out to your neighboring town just minutes before you head out the door as a family. Usually they are rostered on for at least a few hours during the day, but your day can be planned and executed successfully and callouts are rare. Point Five worked and was away unexpectedly from 8am Christmas Eve 'til 5.30 p.m. each morning with the kids and I am responsible for getting them school-ready whilst I leave hubby to his own devices for work. Often I get a text when he is already late saying he will be home in 30 minutes and three hours later we still haven't seen him.Christmas night; the kids and I were devastated and it was not my finest moment as a police wife as tears were shed. Regardless of his roster, I prepare dinner for the entire family at 5pm every night. Have a routine and stick to it because his job is anything but routine.Again, shelve the resentment, smile and re-plan for the next day/weekend. Don't be tempted to stretch out dinner or the kids bedtime on a say-so text ;)4.The last thing our spouses need after an unexpected callout on what should be a joyous day for them also is to come home to a resentful spouse. Resign yourself to the fact that you will not be holidaying when other families do.A LOT of the time you will be solo parenting, and frequently it will be unplanned.Dinners will be served hot and having given up waiting for him to join you, glad wrapped cold, to be eaten when you have long gone to bed. Its hard, but the call-outs outside of rostered hours are part of the job and you need to expect them and get used to parenting alone.
The dinner/bath/bed routine that you were counting on him helping you with will have to be done alone. His job involves putting others needs ahead of yours.
You will most likely be the parent to attend school concerts, sports matches, school assembly's etc.
I have had the experience of being married before to a "regular" hubby and we went about our daily business as two individuals who did their own thing, loved each other and co-habited. I am grateful every day that we didn't make it because I adore being married to my boy in blue.
It is a responsibility, a burden and an honor/blessing for those of you who are religious. It throws up challenges and has its rewards and I wouldn't have it any other way.
I often think that it is we who are in the Police Force, not just him: we signed up; we joined back in January 2007.1.
Learn how to be resilient, especially if you have kids.