Dating a guy younger than you
Dating a guy younger than you - Sex Chat
I like men and I like dating and I have an equal opportunity policy in place, in most cases.In other words, I date guys of different ethnicities, religions, political persuasions, and ages.
I was asked recently, to comment on the differences between dating an older man and a younger man.I date guys within about a 25-year range, say, 40-65, and I have observed some differences.None of them matter a whole lot, but still it’s fun to point them out. I try really hard not to slip into a mother:son dynamic.If I want to really generalize about the younger man/older man thing, I’d say, loosely, that the older guy is “old school”, and has less flexible thinking about the role of men and women and the way they should behave in a relationship, so I, from time to time, “let him be the man”, I.e., letting him do things for me that I’m perfectly capable of doing myself…and being really grateful for it! Just because I’ve seen more doesn’t mean I should always tell him what to do.That will be the kiss of death for any healthy relationship.Of course, these are all generalizations, so there’s no need to write me to point that out.
What you can point out, though, is what you’ve observed in the younger man vs older man dynamic that I’ve missed.
Have you considered dating a younger man, but are afraid of getting your heart broken, being humiliated and ultimately dumped for a younger woman? Our culture’s discomfort with reversing the norm of the younger woman-older man dynamic may come from a deep-rooted evolutionary instinct driving women to choose the older, wiser, more powerful alpha male over the untested young buck.
Or, it could be caused by something as shallow and immediate as a woman not wanting anyone to mistake her date for her younger brother or, God forbid, her son.
Fortunately, more women are realizing the flaw in these beliefs.
A recent study shows women are more likely to choose a younger man when dating online.
Another study published in the journal, Psychology of Women Quarterly, found women who are ten or more years older than their partner report more satisfaction and relationship commitment compared to women who are the same age or younger than their partner.“We don’t know for sure, but it may be because when the woman is older, it shifts the traditional heterosexual power dynamic toward greater equality.