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Last week after playing darts with coworkers, some of my group started hankering for Karaoke.Rudder looked at millions of OKCupid interactions between 20, involving more than 25 million people, and charted out the racial and gender preferences he found.To do this, he studied how people rated potential dates in Quick Match, a feature that shows you profiles one at a time and asks you to rate them on a scale of one to five or skip them. The results here are pretty much the same as data taken from other dating sites.And no, preferring to date someone of a particular race isn't in itself racist." and we both say NO but she continues and says, "Because you know what they say about men who date Asian women..." and I sigh and nod and say, "Yes, I know what they say, but I find it insulting."What I know she's getting at is that some people say that many gay men who are perhaps still in the closet date Asian women to cover up for the fact that they're gay.I know this because I had an incident with a gay friend of mine a few years ago--he made an offhand remark to another friend about how he thought my boyfriend at the time was gay because he was dating me. And then recently other friends have brought up the book by Jeffrey Eugenides which I own but have not yet read. '" and she goes on and on, and I keep saying, "I find that offensive" but it falls on deaf ears and at one point she says, "And the Asian woman is okay with it, because she passive." And finally, what for me was the final straw, she says, "And the Asian girl is happy with it because she gets to say, 'Look at me, I'm with a white guy! It's at this point I turn to my friends and say loudly, "Let's go somewhere else" and so we all leave. Anyway, I managed to completely put the incident behind me that night, but the next morning I woke up for no reason at 5 am, remembered what happened, and got extremely angry.
Apparently, there's as passage in the book where he talks about this "phenomenon" as well. And I'm not quite sure what the reasoning would be for this, perhaps that Asian women are seen as being "exotic" and desirable, so that if a man is seen with an Asian woman, then people will assume that they must be having sex with them. So, as I said, I said to "her" that I found that generalization offensive, but she is oblivious to my protests and is putting on a show, has her whole routine going, and starts strutting around saying, "They walk around in Chelsea with an Asian woman on their arm, saying 'Look at me... The hostess happened to be black, which doesn't play a role in the incident at all, except for the fact that it frustrates me even more when one minority group is racist towards another.
The fact that "she" belonged to two disenfranchised groups made the whole incident even more frustrating.
We decided to go to Lucky Cheng's, which is dubbed "The Drag Queen Capital of the World." I had never been there before, but had heard good things about it.
We walk in, and they haven't started Karaoke yet, and as we're waiting in the lobby area, one of the "ladyboy" hostesses looks at my coworker J and says, "You look familiar--don't I know you from somewhere?
" which embarrasses him because this is the second time he's been out with coworkers where he's been mistaken as being gay.
Then "she" looks at me and says, "Is this your boyfriend?